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What to do about a bad marriage: Can Jesus help? |
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Do you have tears of sadness over loss of love you hoped for? |
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Jesus cries with you. |
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The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart. Psalms 34:18 |
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The Lord is near to all who call upon Him. Psalms 135:13 |
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You may have been abandoned or rejected but Jesus will never leave you or forsake you if you want His help. Mathew 28:20 |
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With all our sins and weaknesses we are not cast aside as worthless. "He has made us accepted in the beloved." Ephesians 1:6 |
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Jesus loves you and longs to bear your burdens and you in His strong arms (My Life Today 97) |
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Lay your poor, nervous hand in His firm hand and let Him hold you and strengthen you, cheer and comfort you. (2 Selected Messages 254) |
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Jesus says, "Lean on Me, Lean hard. I will bear you up. My arm shall never fail you. It shall be strong to support you over all the rough and difficult places. Only make Me your trust and you shall be guided safely and upheld firmly. (2Selected Messages 260) |
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You don't need to feel alone. Angels are our companions. The comforter that Christ promised to send in His name abides with us. (Ministry of Healing 249) |
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Psalms 37:3 Trust in the LORD, and do good; [so] shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed. |
| Some teenagers get married and then discover that for
one reason or another, the peace, joy and comfort they wanted is not
there. Can Jesus help?
Every couple who have been married for many years can tell you that there are times when there were heart wrenching tears of bitter disappointment. When they hoped for comfort and love. Their partner let them down because they were human. Sometimes the devil distracted them with another person. Sometimes the devil uses pictures, computer graphics, and movies of others who are not dressed and are doing sinful things. Inside your partner comes a feeling of shame and anger at themselves for having acted this way, lusting after others. Remember Adam and Eve blamed each other for their sins. Satan uses the same trick today. Your partner may be cruel to you because they are ashamed of their hidden sins. Hidden sins are like a boil or a sliver under the skin. They abscess. When you smile and cook special things for them or do something nice, don't be surprised if they hate you for it. It may seem no matter how hard you work at serving them in doing laundry, cleaning, and cooking that it only brings more cruelty in the home. The hidden sin in their heart makes them feel like such a good for nothing person. To cover up for that feeling, they will probably lash out and try to hurt you. You can sing, smile and go about your work of living and loving. Jesus can sweeten your bitter lot. Psalms 37:3 Trust in the LORD, and do good; [so] shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed. |
| By reading of the life of Jesus, we can be
changed to be the loving Person He is. The best book for doing this is
called, "Desire of Ages". I highly recommend this book I
have read it so many times in the past 30 years that my book is falling
apart. I have four or five of them that I have marked up but there are
experiences and victories I remember as I read my original one.
Obey His voice. If your companion asks you to do something that is against your convictions, obey Jesus first. There are simple requests that do not involve principles and morals. These are things you can bend over backwards to show you love and care for your partner. Never compromise on God's standards. If you do not have one of these Desire of Ages Books ask me where you can find one. (write to Dr. Rose at tetracha@aol.com) |
| Special promises for marriages that are in trouble
Isaiah 54:5 For thy Maker [is] thine husband; the LORD of hosts [is] his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called. He is her best friend in every emergency. His everlasting arms support her. |
| For the lady who has only coldness,
harshness, cruelty, betrayal and unfaithfulness in the man she hoped
would be a companion and husband, Jesus offers love and peace. If there
are children from this relationship, she should pray for Jesus to advise
her in what to do. Don't give up hope. Jesus can do miracles for you if
you give Him a chance.
"The patience and gentleness which His Spirit can impart, will sweeten the bitter lot. The heart in which Christ dwells will be so filled, so satisfied, with His love that it will not be consumed with longing to attract sympathy and attention to itself. And through the surrender of the soul to God, His wisdom can accomplish what human wisdom fails to do. Through the revelation of His grace, hearts that were once indifferent or estranged may be united. . . . {AG 115.4}" |
| Jesus knows how you feel and he can sweeten your
bitter experience with His love. He can cause your heart to be so happy
and satisfied that you will stop longing to get attention and love from
your partner or from others. Jesus can do what no one else can do for your
unhappiness and loneliness. He can even perform a miracle and
bring back into your life a special relationship with that same person
that is even better than it was in the first place. He can make a new
fabric of your love that will make it through rough times.
" Now, as in Christ's day, the condition of society presents a sad comment upon heaven's ideal of this sacred relation. Yet even for those who have found bitterness and disappointment where they had hoped for companionship and joy, the gospel of Christ offers a solace. The patience and gentleness which His Spirit can impart will sweeten the bitter lot. The heart in which Christ dwells will be so filled, so satisfied, with His love that it will not be consumed with longing to attract sympathy and attention to itself. And through the surrender of the soul to God, His wisdom can accomplish what human wisdom fails to do. Through the revelation of His grace, hearts that were once indifferent or estranged may be united in bonds that are firmer and more enduring than those of earth--the golden bonds of a love that will bear the test of trial. {MB 65.2} |
| There is great wonderful counsel in the writings
of Ellen White to encourage joy and love between husband and wife. Make
sure that you do not starve your partner for expressions of friendship,
kindness and sympathy. Do not focus on a thought that your union is a
mistake or disappointment. Encourage your partner, study ways to make them
happy.
"As your love for him (Jesus) becomes deeper and stronger, your love for each other will be purified and strengthened." {RH, December 10, 1908 par. 9}" "As the social and generous impulses are repressed, they wither, and the heart becomes desolate and cold. We should beware of this error. Love can not long exist without expression. Let not the heart of one connected with you starve for the want of kindness and sympathy. {RH, December 10, 1908 par. 6} |
| Even under false accusation those who are in the right can afford to be calm and considerate. God is acquainted with all that is misunderstood and misinterpreted by men, and we can safely leave our case in His hands. He will as surely vindicate the cause of those who put their trust in Him as He searched out the guilt of Achan. Those who are actuated by the spirit of Christ will possess that charity which suffers long and is kind. {PP 520.2} |
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| Same topic, more info: see Hosea's story under the topic of Bible stories on forgiveness. |
Yes,
HE CAN! Read His promises every day and ask Him for help.